Have you ever gone through a time in your life where you felt a strong sense of fear? And you struggled looking for faith that the world would turn everything over and into doing just fine? I have been struggling with feelings of fear.
I suppose the first time you really fail at something in life – goals that you’ve set, things that you thought you had in your pocket, careers that you thought were totally on course, new ways of being that you thought you’d mastered, relationships that you thought were solid, bills that you thought were as good as paid, that first time failing to meet any of those kinds of expectations definitely can feel rough.
But what about when you continually fail at things? If you’ve managed to get comfortable with failing the first time, and you’ve picked yourself back up, dusted yourself off, and you’ve found the faith to keep moving forward. What about when you fail over and over again?
I’ve discovered, and you’ve probably discovered or known, that life is full of experiences that are uncomfortable. Those uncomfortable experiences can be paralyzing if you’re someone who wants to be in control of everything. Largely because of my life experiences, my childhood, my knowledge of control and release … I want to know exactly what is going on with everything. Especially things I cannot control. And acknowledging that there is much in life that I cannot control is something that has taken me a long time to come around to. Following that thought comes the thought that you should then learn to let go of the things you cannot control.
I’m still working on that part, which leads me to the purpose of this post. I came across a post this morning while searching for “How to Have Faith” on Google. It was, of course, a post about the Law of Attraction. That was no surprise to me – I’ve read some things and we’ve all seen the Oprah shows talking about the Law of Attraction. I hadn’t discounted it before – I’m not a stranger to the feely goody woo woo new age stuff. It’s something I’ve explored.
As someone who tries to be open to all kinds of ideas and ways of being as I try to become a better person, I made short attempts at making something like the Law of Attraction successful for me. The efforts I made weren’t super concerted – they weren’t long term. I often have a hard time staying focused on these sorts of things, but I have found that focusing on the positive has helped me to become successful in a lot of endeavours.
So, I then decided to see what else Andrea Conway had to say on her blog and clicked to the front page. I found her most recent post on “An Abraham-Hicks Grid to Attract More Clients (the Easy Way).” Conway writes about something called “The Grid” in her blog post. She’s talking about something that the Abraham-Hicks Law of Attraction squad came up with that is essentially just a list of words, although they can be arranged into a grid.
Of course, I then went down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out how to create one of these grids because I would totally like some more clients signed on for my social media consultation business. That led me to a post on another blog called “I Just Wannt Be F-ckin’ Happy.” In that post, the blog’s author, Jason “J-Ryze” Fonceca, explained how to make one of these grids. Again, this is something I’ve done before by mapping out words and brainstorming. It’s something I do when I work on new client business all the time. Jason’s post inspired me to think more about what I want for my life in general. How I want to feel. Words that make me feel a certain way.
Generally speaking, I’m a pretty Mighty Girl. I’ve overcome a lot of adversity, I’ve been powerfully supported by a strong group of people that, albeit small, have supported me through those things that I haven’t been able to control. The word “Mighty” came out of my creating this grid and thinking about words that came out of a grid I simply called “Emotional Grid.” I started with the words: Calm, Invigorated, Strong, Breezy, Rich, Luscious, and Effective. Then, I ended with the grid above. The word “Sturdy” appeared again and again. I want to feel Sturdy.
I now returned to the post from Andrea Conway on “An Abraham-Hicks Grid to Attract More Clients (the Easy Way)” because she said something that resonated for me, in particular. She said that affirmations can often generate resistance in people, and that’s something that I’ve struggled mightily with while trying to follow the Law of Attraction. What that means is that even though I actively set goals for myself to achieve and I say affirmations and I try to feel those feelings that are supposed to come along with doing all of that, I often feel resistance. You know – that other little voice in your head that says, “Girl. You are not any of these things you want to be.” And that spirals into, “Girl. You are never going to be any of those things you want to be.” And then that leads you back to the feeling of fear instead of the feeling of faith.
I love the feeling of owning a successful business.
I love the feeling of serving an abundance of perfect clients.
I love the feeling of attracting increasing numbers of clients.
I love the feeling of receiving a generous income from my business.
I love the feeling of helping my clients achieve powerful results.
I love the feeling of sharing my products and services with clients who appreciate them.
I love the feeling of expressing my life purpose through my successful business.
Mm. These are things that I do know I love the feel of – not only professionally but emotionally and personally. I love the feeling of many of the things on this list. These are the feelings that I also associate with the things on my Emotional Grid.
- I love the feeling of showing a client how effective their social media can become.
- I love the feeling of translating raw data for a client into actionable information that gives them insight into what they’ve been trying.
- I LOVE the feeling of how data can tell a rich story. And I LOVE figuring out what a client should do next to make that data even better.
- I love getting paid abundantly to help them figure out a story that they haven’t been able to master previously.
- I feel mighty when I can help them achieve powerful results using the knowledge I’ve gained from years of living my life and working as hard as I can.
- I feel powerful and vibrant when I’m being a Shokunin.
- I feel bright and flush when I know I will be able to pay all of my bills and the people who work for me with ease.
- I feel composed when a presentation comes together easily and allows me to give a client a fresh perspective on something they didn’t previously fully understand the power of.
- I feel sturdy when all of this comes together and my business is successful.
These are all things that I don’t feel any resistance to in my heart. When I bring my instinct and intelligence together I am able to find the answers and be MightyP! So, I leave off with some inspiring quotes and concepts that might help you to find your next steps and help you to define a grid to find faith and leave fear behind.
“The Japanese word shokunin is defined by both Japanese and Japanese-English
dictionaries as ‘craftsman’ or ‘artisan’, but such a literal description does not fully express
the deeper meaning. The Japanese apprentice is taught that shokunin means not only
having technical skill, but also implies an attitude and social consciousness. These qualities
are encompassed in the word shokunin, but are seldom written down . . . . The shokunin
demonstrates knowledge of tools and skills with them, the ability to create beauty and
the capacity to work with incredible speed . . . . The shokunin has a social obligation to
work his/her best for the general welfare of the people. This obligation is both spiritual
and material, in that no matter what it is, the shokunin’s responsibility is to fulfill the
- Toshio Odate
“There are things that intelligence alone is able to seek, but which, by itself, it will
never find. These things instinct alone could find; but it will never seek them.”
- Henri Bergson